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As I’ve said, in online dating a first message can have a huge affect, but what helps the most?Here’s my short 4-point list of easy to follow ideas: This is an example of how sometimes profiles are too short and give you no clues to who the person is.With this type of profile, I always felt like simply asking them out on safe date in the first email is fine.There’s not too much to work with here aside from asking travel questions which, by looking at her profile, probably already happens in every email she receives. I know this looks like nothing but I’ve had success with these types of emails (my wife being the best example…although her profile was actually good!
Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.
I spent too much time blindly follow good-intentioned advice and not thinking for myself early on when dating online.
So better to listen to your gut and break any “rules” (such as keeping the email short) when you think it would work to your favor.
For example, in the Profile 3, creating an invitation to have a drink that looked like a travel itinerary might work well if she had mentioned enjoying creativity or if her profile was very creative.
Sometimes we can get so caught up in following “rules” that our online dating first messages don’t end up reflecting us very well and…
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If you read my online dating guide you’ll know that my first 6 months or so I had very little success.