Dating a woman with children feelings
When asked what she wishes her mom would do differently while dating, Rachel, a smart young graduate student, replied, “I wish she would recognize her own impulsivity and emotional rollercoaster.
She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy.
After I went back to campus each time Mom said, ‘I never get to see you!
Eventually, though, assuming your dating relationship continues to deepen, you’ll want to get everyone together for a shared activity. Because they are caught in a loyalty conflict, children sometimes warm up nicely to the person you are dating and then turn cold. Nearly all blended families have inclement weather to manage as they drive (especially in the first few years), so adopt the attitude of a learner.
But for most, the issue of dating involves "romantic attraction and desire." Therefore "dating" must be approached by what the Scripture says regarding romantic desire and marriage, the only relationship in which romantic desire is to be fully expressed.
1 Jn.3: 1 says, "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God! " Gal.5: 13 says, “Rather serve one another in love.” Heb.10: 24 says, “Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” God desires that we serve one another in love by giving of ourselves to help each other grow in Christ as fellow-believers.
This love is based on our relationship with Christ and is not dependent on feelings we may or may not have for a fellow-believer.